Supervision & Consultation
In order to become a competent psychotherapist (and remaining one!), you need 3 things:
If you are wanting to grow in the art of psychotherapy, you must come into this profession with a teachable spirit. We spend a lot of time with our patients in some pretty dark places laced with a lot of unknowns. So if you think you know the "solution" de facto somehow, or by reading it in a book somewhere, to be sure, without affectively experiencing something of their darkness and unknown with them, you will never be effective in helping people on their journey. As human beings, we need the presence of another who listens, engages, and becomes curious about our lives and experiences. No one is helped with any depth and long-lasting change through abstract techniques we suggest from a distance. I will therefore come alongside you and offer a safe space for you to practice and learn the art of not-knowing. You might be surprised by what is revealed and what you actually come to know.
2. a good therapist.
If your goal is to be a good therapist, you need to be in your own therapy. And not just that, you need to be seeing a good therapist. I believe wholeheartedly that if you have never been in your own depth therapy, you cannot be effective. You need to experience your own vulnerabilities and have the courage to face your own brokenness with someone who knows how to navigate these places. The best thing about being in your own therapy is that you can become increasingly free of your fear of the mess-- whether it is yours or your patients. (Usually, it's a combination of both.) If you do not, at best, you will collude with your patients' own defenses against "going there." At worst, you will do harm. All told, I will not supervise you if you have never been in your own messes in your own therapy.
3. a good supervisor.
There is nothing like a safe space to grow and learn. And a good supervisor knows how to create this kind of space for you, whether as an individual or in a group. I believe that you already know intuitively what is happening in a clinical situation. What I would offer is language and insight in helping you become aware of this. So, as a supervisor, I aim to grow in you who you are as a therapist so that you can learn to trust your gut as it becomes more and more informed by sound clinical theory and practice.